Self care during a pandemic.

If, like me, you’re really struggling mentally and emotionally during this pandemic and especially if you’re in lockdown, chances are you could benefit from some self care.

When the Covid19 virus started making headlines back at the beginning of the year it felt scary for me. I read as much as I could about it, and with each passing week it got closer to home.

Around ten days ago my brain/thoughts had just had enough. I already socially distance myself anyway so that wasn’t a real hardship for me. But then the UK went into lockdown.

As a person who spends a lot of time at home I really thought this would be a breeze for me. A couple of days in and I started to struggle. I don’t know what it was about the enforced staying at home, it just suddenly started making me feel so very claustrophobic.

This is when I had suddenly decided I’d had enough of the endless news cycles churning out everything and anything Coronavirus related. Social media channels were just as bad too. Everyone had something to say and everyone was an expert, it was driving me nuts.

Enough was enough for me. Now I limit my time on social media (I was doing this mostly anyway) and the browsing of news is very limited too. Instead, I have been focusing on self care and trying to be as kind and gentle to myself as possible.

When I was writing this post I felt called to draw an Oracle Card. The card is from The Sacred Self-Care Oracle deck by Jill Pyle. The Card I drew is Music.

Choose music that resonates with you and holds a positive vibration.
Music always has the power to move me one way or another, and I think at a time like this music can really help aid relaxation. Music allows us to forget our troubles, even if it’s only for a while. It has fantastic healing abilities and is such a feel good past time.

Whether you’re into rock or pop music, or whether it’s classical or easy listening, now is a good time to crank up the music and set your worries aside for awhile.
I also found this info sheet online when I was browsing for some self care ideas and activities. I think Dominee has provided a fantastic resource here to help with those gnawing negative thoughts.

Love ❤️

In the current world climate I think it is important to know that love is actually inside of us all. We can help ease this suffering if we radiate our love light instead of pouring out hatred.

This doesn’t mean that love will cure the virus, it means that love can help us overcome our need to panic buy when we already have enough. It means we can show compassion to people instead of fearing them.

Love is the currency and the emotion that we need right now. Love can and will lead the way.

Keep moving forward.

We are living through the scariest, darkest times since World War II and our world is changing. In just a few short days we’ve gone from observing countries on lockdown to being on the verge of lockdown ourselves.

And it’s terrifying.

Washing our hands, avoiding crowded places, self isolating, feeling frustrated and angry when the panic buyers have left us without our basic essentials, this has become the new norm for us.

And it’s terrifying.

I was asked a day or two ago how I’m coping. Like everyone else I’m bewildered by the world we are now living in. I feel lost at times, definitely scared, but I have no choice but to keep moving forward.

Taking each day as it comes. Sometimes hour by hour, minute by minute, that’s how I’m coping. Moving forward as slowly as I need to. It’s all we can do in these uncertain times.

Just breathe.

Amid all of the coronavirus mayhem we all need to take a moment to just breathe. This isn’t me dismissing the severity of what’s happening, I just want to remind you all to take a breath. Take a moment out of the chaos and confusion. Take a moment out of the fear and the anger and just breathe.

Full Moon Blessings.

When it comes to my practice I am far removed from the idea people have of a witch. I wear black, but only because of a need to stay invisible after being attacked many moons ago. I have cats, I even had a black cat familiar, but he died last year.

I started on this magical path at the age of fourteen, really getting into it around the age of nineteen or twenty. Where I live has never been big on the magical scene, so buying anything was ridiculously difficult. I learnt early on that the greatest tool I possessed was my own mind.

I have dabbled a fair amount with different practices and have taken what I find useful from some. I’m very eclectic. Some people label me as a traditional witch, I admit, I used to identify as one too. But over the years I just felt I’m more of a “me” kind of practitioner.

I like to acknowledge the moon, mainly because she’s so freakin’ gorgeous and majestic. I’m also very fond of the divine feminine – I don’t worship deity, however, I do acknowledge the Mother, Mother Earth. Plenty of trads get their panties in a knot over people like me, calling us fake, fluffy, whatever, saying it’s not the done thing to celebrate the moon phases, or be down with the divine feminine.

I just do what I feel comes naturally to me. I’m not against anyone doing what they want in terms of their own practice. Quite frankly it’s none of my business.

The full moon comes around every 29.5 days and I do something most of the time. I admit, what I do isn’t to everyone’s taste, but it’s my thing and that’s what’s important. Don’t worry, I’m not running around the garden naked, nobody needs to see that!

What I generally do is look at what no longer serves me and release it. It could be a habit, an idea, a person, anything. I’ll usually have a good idea of what I am releasing because I will have been journalling a lot, especially in the run up to a full moon.

The format is something similar to the above, although I tend to skip step number two entirely. What I tend to do is read over what I’ve written and then read it again as each thing I’m releasing is burnt.

Most importantly at the full moon, in my opinion, is that people do whatever they want (as long as it’s legal and they aren’t hurting anyone else). This sort of practice is very personal. Books and videos are a fantastic resource for giving us ideas, but something that comes from within you, from your heart is always that much more potent, so coming up with your own ideas of what you wish to do is a fantastic way to connect with each full moon.

Healing.

Healing has to be what is right for you. That’s something I’ve learnt along the way. My healing may appear messy, loud, outspoken, a sort of why are you doing/saying that. My healing is my journey and your healing is yours, it only has to make sense to the person who is healing.

Post for today has gone haywire, here it is…

When we are trying to focus on improving ourselves the worst thing we can do is pay too much attention to images, and posts, on social media. I’m not saying avoid these platforms (unless of course you want to), what I’m saying is don’t play the comparison game.

I’m a sucker for the comparison game, I don’t know how it happens, it just does. Someone is always prettier, thinner, sexier, more successful, has more friends, more money, and on and on it goes. I know I shouldn’t do that, compare what I have/am to other people online, or even in real life, but oh boy is it hard not to!

When I get to that level of not good enough I try my best to remind myself that the people I find myself in awe of are probably going through the exact same thing. I think we all feel this way about everyone else, it’s one of our human flaws.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Remember we all feel not good enough at some point. Overcoming these inadequate feelings we have about ourselves is all part of our healing process, the key to self love.

Review of Adults by Emma Jane Unsworth.

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Firstly, I want to say that the main character in this book is a selfish and irritating person. I did find her funny at times, but I wouldn’t ever be friends with such a person and I guess that didn’t help my feelings about her.

Jenny is social media obsessed. I guess a lot of people can relate to her character, feeling the need to update one of their many social media accounts constantly. This does strike a chord.

There are plenty of incidents in the book that made me pity Jenny. Her ex boyfriend treat her appallingly and throughout the book he continued to toy with her emotions. For that I felt that the character was going to be striking a chord with a lot of readers.

The one character I loved was Jenny’s mum. Her mediumistic abilities and love for all things esoterical brought a much needed lightness to a book that aimed to be humorous but just felt quite grim from start to finish.

I think the aim of the story is to be satirical, and maybe plenty of people got this vibe. I just did not get this.

Choosing how to feel.

Today I chose this card from Gabrielle Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back oracle deck. Lately I’ve felt pretty low and I’d normally try and rise above it all and focus on how to change it to a positive feeling. But that hasn’t been working out so well. This card has allowed me to honour the low mood that
has enveloped me for the past few weeks. I am learning that we need to feel the negative as well as the positive.