Better late than never…

Life is OTT busy right now. I’ve been telling myself that being too busy makes me sick, it sort of does, but that’s not the whole story.

Being too busy stresses me out. Stress makes me ill. As I’ve come to the end of another year of uni studies I can see where the changes need to be made.

Study is important to me, I need to devote time to that. Family is important too, obviously, and just as obviously time needs devoted to this area too.I’ve decided to cut back on social media and limit my time on YouTube.

I’ve amassed a rather large collection of self care books and I’m finally heeding the message, look after myself too.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, we need to look after us, ourselves. It’s not selfish, it’s vital.

When adults can’t adult.

I saw this meme on Facebook last week and immediately said “omg yes”

A couple of years ago someone I thought was my friend just ghosted me. This wasn’t the first time they did this, but this time I was going though some personal stuff and got friend dumped.

And because they did this mutual friends did it too. I can categorically say I did nothing to any of them, but the friend lied about me. Wicked lies that claimed I borrowed £10k and hadn’t paid it back. Wicked lies that claimed me and someone else went to their place of work and stole from them. Side note: I’ve never met either in real life.

I cannot abide people who dislike and fall out with other people because a friend told them lies and expects them to fall out with that person too. What are we, 12? The scene in my head where this happens is of a high school corridor and Frenemy flounces past with their crew, all eyes straight ahead acting like I don’t exist.

This stuff happens in educational establishments the world over. Once we reach maturity and leave those places behind, childish practices get left behind too.

Mostly.

Sadly, for some people, they aren’t happy unless there is conflict and drama. The person I am referring to has this down to pat. And so many fall for their bullshit. Alienating people on a whimsical notion of loyalty to their chum.

My message is loud and clear: if you dislike me, make sure I have actually done something to you and not because your puppet master has said so.

New chapter.

It was my birthday recently and for the first time since I was 16 I felt amazing. The day was quiet. I spent it doing normal day to day stuff, then went out for afternoon tea with my husband.

Happiness. Simple pleasures.

I began 2022 with the intention of healing. That was my theme of the year. I wouldn’t say I’m healed completely, but so much darkness has lifted from me. So much clarity.

Moving forward knowing that I’m recovering.

Be You.

We talk a lot about being authentic, showing up as our authentic selves. Doing the work on our own inner garden, inner selves, will allow us to be just us. No pretence. No mask for the world to see, just our own brilliant selves.

It’s actually harder than you might think, to be 100% authentically ourselves. There are many faces we present to the outside world, masks that protect us from scorn, ridicule, fear, judgment. We are often afraid to be ourselves.

Showing up just as you are can present many challenges, but the rewards are plentiful. There’s no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. There’s no need to lie about anything, being yourself requires no falsehood.

You may lose people along the way. That is a price worth paying, I believe anyway. If people can’t be around you when you’re being yourself then you have to ask what part of your truth offends or triggers them?

Being yourself doesn’t mean shouting and hurling abuse. Being yourself means letting go of anger. Being yourself means living your truth. You’re not hurting anyone, so any offence others feel is their issue to deal with, not yours.

Be you. Love you. ❤️

Pause for thought.

Author: Les Brown

Shut down the drama in your life. It is unhealthy. Arguing and fighting creates dis-ease. Stay away from negative, selfish, energy-draining relationships that do not honor you, or even worse -use you, abuse you, and take advantage of your kindness. Do not buy into their negativity or guilt trips. Resolve to live in peace. Do not attempt to change others. There is enough work to do on yourself. Develop relationships where all parties can grow, and create an atmosphere of mutual respect, love, and appreciation. Free yourself from inner chaos by meditation, relaxation, and stillness. What you create inside of yourself will manifest outside yourself. Create a sanctuary where you can live in peace, relax your mind, revive your spirit, and renew your purpose. You have GREATNESS within you!!