A reminder that we don’t have to strive for perfection before we enjoy what life has to offer. This is the time of year where we feel under pressure to have everything perfect; the perfect tree, the perfect gifts, the perfect outfit, the perfect food and drink, the perfect family…… What we fail to realise is that our idea of perfection is not the same as anyone else’s, therefore we are never going to please everyone. So why bother tying yourself up in knots striving for a perceived perfection that will fall way short of what you desire?
Be yourself. Be real. Be happy. The rest will fall into place.
Still feeling stressed? Still feeling out of your depth? Overwhelmed?
A really good way to reconnect with yourself and feel grounded once more is to practice being grateful. Showing gratitude is one of the in things to do right now, it’s become a trend. There’s no need to feel overwhelmed by this simple activity, you only need feel grateful for something small to actually participate. By finding something to be grateful for each day, being alive, having a warm coat, being surrounded by family and friends, and so on, you can easily put life into perspective. So if you start each day being grateful for something, then the once daunting tasks ahead become less overwhelming and you get to feel relaxed as you go about your day.
Now that the social festivities have started the pressure we feel is starting to bite. Someone needs you to run an errand for them, the shopping for the Christmas feasting needs doing, the gift buying needs completing, nativities and concerts are being hosted at schools, and despite all of this busy someone still expects something from you that you feel pressurised into saying yes to.
Just remember, you don’t have to say yes. It’s quite acceptable to say no, you are not a bad person just because you have refused a request. As long as it isn’t an emergency then there is no reason why someone else can’t help out. It doesn’t have to be you. Saying no does not equal being mean.
Share your happiness with those around you. Not only will it brighten up the days of the people you are sharing your life with, both at home and at work, etc, it will also give you a wonderful feeling too.
A gentle reminder that you are doing your best. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Relax a little. Take a breather whenever you can. Smile and enjoy what the season has to offer.
The above quote speaks for itself. When a friend or loved one is having a hard time we find it easy to be kind and offer positive words of advice. Yet when we find ourselves in a similar situation we beat ourselves up, we are hard on ourselves, we are overly critical of how we handled the situation. It’s crazy, because we wouldn’t tell our best friend that they acted in a stupid manner, or that they could have done everything different, so why should we accept that self-limiting, soul-crushing talk from ourselves?
The next time you face a difficult situation, try to remember to be kind and gentle with yourself.
A no brainer really. Yet we allow ourselves to be swept up by emotions, regretting our actions later. This is a powerful quote to ponder upon today. We pride ourselves on living healthy lives physically, but mentally, emotionally, we fill our minds with negative talk and thought patterns that are unhealthy. Makes sense to be healthy emotionally, as well as physically.
Its not as easy as it sounds. We’ve all had the good intentions of being more positive and not allowing negative influences to clog up our lives, minds and thought process. I’ve been here so many times and I get angry with myself when I don’t serenely sail through each day, smiling at the challenges that crop up and dealing with them in a calm manner.
But just by changing your mindset when faced with a difficult circumstance you will often find that you are much more able to deal with whatever life is throwing at you. So instead of blowing your stack when you’re stuck in a traffic jam, or a queue in the supermarket, challenge yourself to deal with the situation in a different way. How you do that will depend upon who you are, what the situation actually is, and how quickly you can change your reaction. But it is doable, and it does make a real difference. The trick is remembering to do it.
It’s easy to let the overwhelming feelings of the season blindside you from the get go. Try to derail the negative thoughts before they take root in your mind. It’s amazing what a change of thinking can do for you.
It’s so very easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of the Christmas season, especially when we lead such busy lives. The season itself is meant to be enjoyed, in my opinion, whether that be in a flurry of children’s school activities that are centred around Christmas, or gift buying and preparing for the huge seasonal feast, or even social events with friends and family. But for so many of us this can be a really stressful time. We worry that we aren’t doing “it” right, whatever “it” may be; we worry that what we have bought for our loved ones, gift wise, isn’t enough, and that we have somehow failed them because of this. There are those of us who have extended family coming to stay for the holidays and that in itself opens up a whole new realm of stress and worry. There are a multitude of other worries that many of us encounter each and everyday and we feel them more keenly at this particular time of the year.
With all of this in mind, I wanted to share some positivity with you all. It may not be much, and it is probably not going to eliminate the stresses of the forthcoming season, but just maybe it will bring a smile to someone’s face, or give someone pause for thought in the madness that ensues. I’m calling it the positivity advent calendar because there will be a positive quote shared on this blog each Day from December 1st to Christmas Day.
Today’s quote is all about believing in ourselves. Just imagine always having unshakable belief in yourself. Imagine what you could and would achieve if you always believed you could do whatever it is you wanted to do.
Now go for it.