Healing from trauma.

Trauma hits on all levels. It’s complex, yet simple. We store traumatic memories within our body, so even when we heal our minds the trauma lives on inside of us.

This is the beginning of my journey down this path. I can see how I’ve been affected for many years and now I want to work with removing trauma from my body.

Better late than never…

Life is OTT busy right now. I’ve been telling myself that being too busy makes me sick, it sort of does, but that’s not the whole story.

Being too busy stresses me out. Stress makes me ill. As I’ve come to the end of another year of uni studies I can see where the changes need to be made.

Study is important to me, I need to devote time to that. Family is important too, obviously, and just as obviously time needs devoted to this area too.I’ve decided to cut back on social media and limit my time on YouTube.

I’ve amassed a rather large collection of self care books and I’m finally heeding the message, look after myself too.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, we need to look after us, ourselves. It’s not selfish, it’s vital.

When adults can’t adult.

I saw this meme on Facebook last week and immediately said “omg yes”

A couple of years ago someone I thought was my friend just ghosted me. This wasn’t the first time they did this, but this time I was going though some personal stuff and got friend dumped.

And because they did this mutual friends did it too. I can categorically say I did nothing to any of them, but the friend lied about me. Wicked lies that claimed I borrowed £10k and hadn’t paid it back. Wicked lies that claimed me and someone else went to their place of work and stole from them. Side note: I’ve never met either in real life.

I cannot abide people who dislike and fall out with other people because a friend told them lies and expects them to fall out with that person too. What are we, 12? The scene in my head where this happens is of a high school corridor and Frenemy flounces past with their crew, all eyes straight ahead acting like I don’t exist.

This stuff happens in educational establishments the world over. Once we reach maturity and leave those places behind, childish practices get left behind too.

Mostly.

Sadly, for some people, they aren’t happy unless there is conflict and drama. The person I am referring to has this down to pat. And so many fall for their bullshit. Alienating people on a whimsical notion of loyalty to their chum.

My message is loud and clear: if you dislike me, make sure I have actually done something to you and not because your puppet master has said so.

New chapter.

It was my birthday recently and for the first time since I was 16 I felt amazing. The day was quiet. I spent it doing normal day to day stuff, then went out for afternoon tea with my husband.

Happiness. Simple pleasures.

I began 2022 with the intention of healing. That was my theme of the year. I wouldn’t say I’m healed completely, but so much darkness has lifted from me. So much clarity.

Moving forward knowing that I’m recovering.

Be You.

We talk a lot about being authentic, showing up as our authentic selves. Doing the work on our own inner garden, inner selves, will allow us to be just us. No pretence. No mask for the world to see, just our own brilliant selves.

It’s actually harder than you might think, to be 100% authentically ourselves. There are many faces we present to the outside world, masks that protect us from scorn, ridicule, fear, judgment. We are often afraid to be ourselves.

Showing up just as you are can present many challenges, but the rewards are plentiful. There’s no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. There’s no need to lie about anything, being yourself requires no falsehood.

You may lose people along the way. That is a price worth paying, I believe anyway. If people can’t be around you when you’re being yourself then you have to ask what part of your truth offends or triggers them?

Being yourself doesn’t mean shouting and hurling abuse. Being yourself means letting go of anger. Being yourself means living your truth. You’re not hurting anyone, so any offence others feel is their issue to deal with, not yours.

Be you. Love you. ❤️

Pause for thought.

Author: Les Brown

Shut down the drama in your life. It is unhealthy. Arguing and fighting creates dis-ease. Stay away from negative, selfish, energy-draining relationships that do not honor you, or even worse -use you, abuse you, and take advantage of your kindness. Do not buy into their negativity or guilt trips. Resolve to live in peace. Do not attempt to change others. There is enough work to do on yourself. Develop relationships where all parties can grow, and create an atmosphere of mutual respect, love, and appreciation. Free yourself from inner chaos by meditation, relaxation, and stillness. What you create inside of yourself will manifest outside yourself. Create a sanctuary where you can live in peace, relax your mind, revive your spirit, and renew your purpose. You have GREATNESS within you!!

Daily Om – 25/04/2022.

Letting Your Light Shine

When we undermine our light by hiding our aptitudes and quashing our dreams, we deny ourselves and others a wealth of experiences.

We are each born into this world with unique gifts. Within us is a glimmer of the divine, a light that can potentially make the world a more beautiful place. But in many, that light lies dormant, snuffed out by fears and feelings of inadequacy. To spark it is to attract attention, face the possibility of rejection or the responsibility of success, and risk being labeled immodest. Yet when we undermine the light by hiding our aptitudes and quashing our dreams, we deny ourselves and others a wealth of experiences. Your abilities are a part of who you are and when you take pride in them, you affirm the love, esteem, and trust with which you view yourself. Moreover, as you express the light within, you grant others permission to do the same, freeing them to explore their own talents. 

For some, we are taught to hide our light from the world since childhood. Relatives caution us that the professions associated with our aptitudes are unattainable. Our peers may be envious of our skills and thus overly critical of the activities we instinctively enjoy. And authority figures admonish us to be humble and avoid showing off. But there is a vast chasm that separates those who let their light shine and those who seek only to draw attention to themselves. When you dare to share your light with the world, the beauty and perfection of your soul become clearly visible. You become a whole being — the literal embodiment of your vast potential. Whether you are a wonderful dancer, a first-rate cook, quick with numbers, or a natural negotiator, you’ll come to understand that you do the world no favors when you hold yourself back. 

If you have hidden your light for so long that it has shrunk to an ember, make a list of everything you do well, however impractical, silly, or seemingly inconsequential. Then ask yourself how you can positively utilize those abilities in your daily life. The gifts you were born with were not granted to you arbitrarily. While you may never discover what impact your light has had on others, you can be certain that when you embrace your talents and share them with others, you will spread illumination in the world.

Daily Om – 18/04/2022

Image and content courtesy of Daily Om.

Good Vibrations

When we are in a state of good vibration, we attract more of that to us.

Feelings vibrate, just as all things in the universe do, at a particular frequency. Negative feelings like anger, guilt, and greed vibrate at low frequencies, while positive feelings like joy, appreciation, and passion vibrate at high frequencies. These high frequency vibrations make us feel good. This is why people and places that inspire and cultivate positive feelings have what we call good vibrations. 

Good vibrations inspire health, happiness, and optimism. When we are tuned in to good vibrations, our bodies heal, our hearts open, and our minds shift toward the light. We see new possibilities and feel powerfully energized to follow our inner visions. At the same time, we feel relaxed and capable of manifesting these visions without giving in to stress or struggle. Good vibrations put us in a state of perfect receptivity so that we feel it is the energy flowing through us that accomplishes what needs to be done. We feel guided, supported, protected, and nourished within this joyful flow. We sometimes forget that we are allowed to feel this way all the time. 

Lower frequency vibrations are not bad in a moral sense, but they are bad in the sense that they simply don’t feel good. Still, they have a purpose, which is to alert us to the fact that we are blocking out the higher frequency vibrations that we need to function well. They are a call for healing ourselves from within. The key to our healing lies in remembering that it is our birthright to feel good and that feeling good is the essence of our true nature. When we are receiving and sending out good vibrations, we are in the flow. When we are not, we can begin to raise our vibration by seeking out people, places, and situations that vibrate at a higher frequency. Whether we need to go on retreat or just call a friend who makes us laugh, seeking out those good vibrations and basking in them is a sacred and loving practice that returns us, time and again, to the joyful flow of the universe.