Last night I saw a comment on Facebook that really made me think. It was from a woman who had posted a photograph of herself after she’d had fake eyelashes done and Botox. Now, that’s not my cup of tea, but one of the comments she made in reply to a friend complimenting her kinda made me smile.
I’m paraphrasing here, but her comment was something like she is beautiful inside and out and the “work” she gets done is to enhance her outer and inner beauty.
I used to be rather critical of people who wanted to get their lashes, or their lips done. Or get Botox, or breast enhancements. But do you know what, it’s not really anyone else’s business is it. If this kind of “work” helps a woman feel at her best then that’s the main thing.
Cheerleading other women is my jam now, and it’s hard some of the time, especially when that woman might rub me up the wrong way, or if she makes questionable choices. But we have enough on our plates trying to get on in this world with patriarchal rules trying to keep us small.
So what if we women make choices about OUR bodies! They’re our bodies, they belong to us and if we want to get any kind of enhancement then so be it. If we feel the need to terminate a pregnancy, then so be it. Men, and women who act like men have no right to dictate what we do with our bodies.
We should always be in full control of what happens to us – and this applies to men too. By focusing on ourselves rather than everyone else we get to take our power back and make choices for us rather than for what anyone else thinks, or wants us to do for their benefit.
I agree with this so much. Recently I was mulling over some work related choices and some of my reasoning left me feeling deflated. A voice inside my head kept telling me to do what makes me happy. It’s vital to follow your heart.
The problem we have, myself included, is that we think things through, again, and again, and again. It’s this over thinking that trips us up. It leads us down the path of self doubt, then onto feeling like we aren’t worthy, like we’re not good enough.
That’s when we give up. We have talked ourselves out of something that would be have been oh so good for us. And what for? The reason is we didn’t trust our inner knowing. We didn’t trust our gut.
I was reading an article yesterday about how we should embrace our childhood passions in order to help us navigate our careers, present or future.
My childhood passion was to be a Jedi knight.
At first I laughed because how could I ever follow my childhood dream? But then I got thinking about what a Jedi knight encompasses. Upholding certain laws. Embracing the energy of the universe and using it for good. Fighting evil.
Whilst there are certain aspects of this particular passion that I cannot ever hope to emulate, there are at least one or two qualities I can embrace and even incorporate into my career.
Sometimes we over complicate our lives. We over think plans or ideas and then dismiss them as impossible. Just because something is easy, or is simple, doesn’t mean it isn’t effective.
If you aren’t living your childhood dream it’s maybe worth revisiting that passion. You never know, you could rework a once cherished idea and make it work for your future.
It’s Pancake Day here in the UK. As a child pancakes were something we ate in the run up to Easter, to herald the start of Lent. My family were fairly religious, so this was something we did partake in.
As an adult and someone who has practiced the craft for over 30 years, Pancake Day was acknowledged in my house as my children were fond of pancakes. The religious meaning behind the day had gone.
But did you know that the original celebration was a pagan festival?
The Slavs – a diverse group of tribal people, who lived throughout central and Eastern- Europe circa the 5th – 10th century – worshipped a God named Jarilo (I think it’s pronounced Yarilo). They believed that the changing of the season, from winter to spring, was a struggle between Jarilo, who was the God of vegetation, fertility and springtime, and the spirits of the cold and darkness.
They believed they had to help Jarilo win this struggle and this was a part of their spring celebration. The entire celebration lasted a week, with a large part of it making and eating pancakes. The hot, round pancakes symbolised the sun, and the Slavs believed that by eating the pancakes they would be imbued with the power, heat and warmth of the sun.
I think that is a wonderful and happy belief to have.
This card is so welcome after what feels like a heavy period in life.
One of the meanings for this card is that it signifies a new period of learning or study, and what would you know, I’ve just started back up with the Open University studying Psychology with Counselling.
This card is really expansive and upbeat, good news for me with the heavy study schedule that awaits me.
This is an optimistic card, again, another good sign for all of us – not just me on my study path.
Let’s face it, we could all do with some happy and joyful energies after the year we’ve experienced.