Tuesday’s Thought – 30/03/21.

This week sees the last of my Psychology Level 1 lessons. I have learnt a lot and a vision for my future has transpired. I began this journey out of anger towards cuts to vital services for women who experience sexual violence, hoping to do one thing, but as I have gone through the first year of my Psychology Degree I have found out where my interest really lies.

It’s still early days for me on this journey and I am excited to see where the next steps of it take me.

I feel like I am so different on a personal level now. Studying has made me prioritise a hell of lot of things in my life, and there’s a lot I have let go. Mostly it has been trivial stuff, but one thing was a friendship that I considered to be of value, despite the warnings from family that the person was no good to me.

Earlier this year there was a situation in my personal life and it was during this time that this person blocked me on all social media – the situation was not related to her, it was something else. At the time I had too much going on to even give her actions more than a moment’s thought, but as life got back to a semblance of normality I got to thinking about how the loss of friendship was going to feel.

And I felt nothing.

I was quite surprised by this. I have known this person for many years and whenever one of us has stopped speaking to the other I have tended to feel the loss keenly. But I feel absolutely nothing this time and I think this has a lot to do with the inner work I have done on myself, plus how I prioritise who and what I allow into my life now.

Moving forward, thinking about where I want to be in terms of how I show up in the world, I now have a solid sense of who I allow into my inner circle. Working on myself on a therapeutical level and studying psychology has allowed me to tend to my inner garden, so to speak. I now only allow healthy relationships into my life. If something or someone is not good for my health, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, then it has no place in my life.

What started out as an angry call to action has possibly been one of the best decisions of my life. I have learnt how to weed out that which isn’t good for me, whereas in the past I would tend to ignore it, convincing myself that I knew myself well enough!

Sometimes endings are the best things for us. Sometimes letting go is the best thing we can do. Not all loss comes to hurt us, often it comes to teach us and we have to be willing to listen and learn, otherwise the lesson will just repeat itself until we learn what we need to.

Friday Vibe – 29/01/21. Looking ahead.

The outlook for February seems to be much of the same, the energy is still quite heavy, and for me, I believe the onus should be on us achieving our best for ourselves, as well as those around us.

Even though everything still has a bleak feeling about it, we can focus on all of the good in our lives, no matter how small.

Carrying even the smallest amount of hope within ourselves allows us to forget, however momentarily, about the dark days that we are living through.

That hope grows a tiny bit each day, until one day it has encompassed us and filled us with brightness and positivity.

Over the coming weeks be the change that you want to see in the world. It always starts with ourselves and grows bigger and wider from there.

Stay strong. Have hope. Smile often.

Today I realised that….

….it’s ok for me to be happy.

That took a huge chunk of time to realise, but I no longer feel guilty for being happy. It’s ok. It’s allowed.

Wow!

Recovering from trauma and PTSD episodes is really hard, but once I let go of how I thought I should feel and just allowed myself to be……that’s when the miracles started to happen. The miracles of happiness and feeling that happiness right to my core. The miracle that I actually love who I am, and that’s how it should be. The miracle that allows me to trust people who aren’t my family.

Wow!

Be happy, start living.

Monday Moonday – 05/10/20

This card is so welcome after what feels like a heavy period in life.

One of the meanings for this card is that it signifies a new period of learning or study, and what would you know, I’ve just started back up with the Open University studying Psychology with Counselling.

This card is really expansive and upbeat, good news for me with the heavy study schedule that awaits me.

This is an optimistic card, again, another good sign for all of us – not just me on my study path.

Let’s face it, we could all do with some happy and joyful energies after the year we’ve experienced.

Here’s to a joyful week ahead.

Monday Musings – 09/12/2019.

That time of year is coming around again – Christmas, Yule, the holidays, whatever you want to call it. It’s a really magical time of the year, but it’s also a very stressful time of the year for many of us too.

The pressure many of us feel to have everything just perfect, from the gifts to the food and drink, to making sure the entire family has an amazing day, these pressures leave us feeling stressed out and unable to see a way beyond the madness.

Making lists can really help here. Lists allow us to have each task laid out in black and white and once ticked off we can feel enormous pleasure in achieving something. It also allows us to break everything down into more manageable chunks and can take some of the pressure off.

And of course some things we just cannot control so just breathe and let go.

Monday Musings – 02/12/2019

If you’re anything like me you’ll be fantastic at giving advice to others, solving their problems, and generally being the support they need.

But what about yourself?

Again, if you’re anything like me you won’t be so good at being that same caring person for yourself. For whatever reason we find it difficult to prioritise ourselves and often run on empty, which in turn is very detrimental to not only our health, but our emotional wellbeing also.

If all you can manage is five minutes a day, every day, then that’s a start. Five minutes turns into ten minutes, ten minutes turns into twenty minutes, and so on and so forth.

Make yourself a priority, you really do deserve it.