I’ve spent a fair amount of time nursing regret at what I should’ve done in my life. It just seeps into you at times, you don’t realise you’re holding on so tightly.
Realising that life is a gift and that the journey is also a gift made me stop and think about why I’m lugging regret around with me.
What does it serve?
I’m talking about the regrets we have when we don’t take action in our lives, not the regrets we have when we’ve hurt someone.
There’s no reason why we can’t just aim for what we want our lives to be like, little by little. Just because we didn’t do that last week, or last year, or even five or ten years ago, that doesn’t mean we can’t still aim for that desire now.
There’s a saying that goes something like you’re a long time dead. Sobering thought. We may as well make good on what we want to do whilst we journey through this thing called life.
With Valentine’s just a couple of days away, today my message is one of love.
I am always talking about how love isn’t just about the romantic kind. It’s about our families. Our friends. Work or school colleagues.
People can go OTT at this time of the year. I don’t think that matters, why should it to us? We don’t always know what is going on in the personal lives of other people.
People without partners can feel down at this time of year. The displays of cards, flowers, gifts, a constant reminder of what they don’t have.
This is where self love is important.
Self love is a special kind of love. You always have yourself. I think it’s important at any time of the year to practice self love and care, soul love. Especially during these dark and uncertain times. But at this time of year it can be a wonderful way to help with any feelings of lack.
Be good to yourself. Be kind. Be loving. Remind yourself that you are not defined by having a man or a woman in your life. Your worth is all about you as a whole, not what someone else brings to your life.
Celebrate the love you have for yourself this coming weekend. Even if you are in a relationship, there’s nothing wrong with loving you too.
And if you’re not in a relationship and haven’t learnt to love yourself yet, just be gentle with yourself right now. Use this weekend as a starting point to loving you. Keep things simple to start with, learning to love yourself is difficult enough, so don’t over complicate any gestures or actions you plan on doing.
Most of all celebrate love this weekend. Any kind of love. Not just romantic love.
Th card is all about centring on the feeling of joy. No matter what is going on in our own lives we can still experience joy by awakening our senses. There are plenty of ways for us to engage all of our senses you just have to be willing to explore them.
During the run-up to Valentine’s Day we can engage with our sense of touch, our sense of smell, our sense of taste, our sense of sight and sound/hearing.
We don’t have to have a partner to engage our senses. Having a luxurious bath can engage some of our senses. Listening to music too.
There is no reason for us not to feel sensual if we are alone. A little imagination can go along way.
Mercury is retrograde, a time when communications have a habit of becoming fraught with problems, among other things. This card has shown up now to remind us that communication is key.
In everything we do we communicate with others on some level. This card is letting us know that we can have that chat we have been meaning to have, without fear of being ignored or unheard.
Remember, relationships aren’t just romantic, they are our family and friends too. Even our work colleagues, or peers. We can have loving communication with any of these people, this card is showing us that the time is now.
So if you need to tell someone something, you can be sure this is the time to have that chat and say all you need to say.