Selfcare Sunday – 13/09/20

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Sunday Soother – Self Care – 23/08/20

Today I am feeling very at peace with life. I have to admit, this has been a long time coming. I’m relaxed, happy, at peace with myself, and the world around me.

Meditation has played a key role in getting me to this point. I have been meditating for many years, admittedly irregularly, but this was the basis for my regular practice.

Regular readers of this blog will know I have had many struggles, so for me to be this well is a huge step.

Meditation doesn’t have to be complicated, unless you want it to be, of course. The simplest way to meditate is to get comfortable, sitting or laying down, then you close your eyes and focus on your breath, the inhale and the exhale.

What I found when I first started meditating many years ago, was that thoughts would pop into my head, distracting me. I also couldn’t focus for a huge length of time; you’re usually expected to meditate for at least five minutes. In the beginning I could barely hold my thoughts still for one or two minutes, so I decided to start with one minute and build it up.

I find that if you cannot follow a guided meditation, and let’s face it, there are times when someone talking away in the background when you’re trying to relax and be at one with yourself, that’s very distracting.

That’s why focusing on your breath is a really good way to get to grips with meditating. Some people will say they don’t do meditation because of their lack of experience and their attention span not being good enough to get in the zone.

Today, just take a moment to focus on your breath. Observe the inflow and outflow of your breath, the rise and fall of your chest. It doesn’t have to be complicated, this simple technique can be a really good starting point for a meditation practice.

Sunday soother. 16/08/20

I always used to do my weekly self care on a Sunday; lots of journaling, meditating, checking in with myself, etc.

Then my granddaughter was born and my daughter was getting out of a very violent and dangerous relationship with her baby’s father. We stepped up and took on the role of second parent to make sure they both thrived. My self care routine was halved as I just didn’t have time anymore.

When my PTSD flared back up I found it was essential to take care of myself properly. Easier said than done. It’s taken a lot of setbacks, therapy, anti-depressants, in-depth journaling, and much, much more for me to get to this point.

I’m the best I have been in years, emotionally. I give thanks to everyone who has stuck by me, helping, understanding and so on. It’s been a rough ride.

This is why Sunday soothers is important to me. It helps me check in with myself. I also hope it helps you do the same. Even five minutes is better than not at all.

Take time for you today.

Soothing Sunday.

Card drawn from The Sacred Self-Care Oracle.

Baths aren’t just for washing our bodies, they can be used for time out for ourselves. If it is safe for you to do so you could light candles, incense sticks, and play relaxing music.

Use this time to wash away things that no longer serve you, don’t just “see” these unwanted thoughts, situations, experiences, and so on, wash away from you as you wash yourself. Feel the unwanted feelings, etc, leave you.

Spend as much time as you need to immersed in the water. Imagine that the water is restoring you physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Once you feel ready, dry yourself down and then pamper yourself with moisturiser and your favourite perfume. Treating yourself to an immersive, relaxing experience such as this allows us to put our own needs first and care for ourselves.

Self Care Sunday.

Card from The Sacred Self-Care Oracle.

Aromatherapy is a powerful tool to connect with plants, flowers, herbs, and the environment around you.

With all that is going on around us right now it’s been really difficult for many of us to relax. This card is a sure sign that relaxation is what is needed now.

Going for a walk in nature is a wonderful way for us to engage our senses. What scents can you smell? What feelings do these smells evoke?

Aromatherapy is a wonderful tool to use to calm our nerves. Find your favourite scent, if you haven’t already, and anoint yourself with it. A pleasant and relaxing smell will certainly help to bring anxiety levels down.