Self care during a pandemic.

If, like me, you’re really struggling mentally and emotionally during this pandemic and especially if you’re in lockdown, chances are you could benefit from some self care.

When the Covid19 virus started making headlines back at the beginning of the year it felt scary for me. I read as much as I could about it, and with each passing week it got closer to home.

Around ten days ago my brain/thoughts had just had enough. I already socially distance myself anyway so that wasn’t a real hardship for me. But then the UK went into lockdown.

As a person who spends a lot of time at home I really thought this would be a breeze for me. A couple of days in and I started to struggle. I don’t know what it was about the enforced staying at home, it just suddenly started making me feel so very claustrophobic.

This is when I had suddenly decided I’d had enough of the endless news cycles churning out everything and anything Coronavirus related. Social media channels were just as bad too. Everyone had something to say and everyone was an expert, it was driving me nuts.

Enough was enough for me. Now I limit my time on social media (I was doing this mostly anyway) and the browsing of news is very limited too. Instead, I have been focusing on self care and trying to be as kind and gentle to myself as possible.

When I was writing this post I felt called to draw an Oracle Card. The card is from The Sacred Self-Care Oracle deck by Jill Pyle. The Card I drew is Music.

Choose music that resonates with you and holds a positive vibration.
Music always has the power to move me one way or another, and I think at a time like this music can really help aid relaxation. Music allows us to forget our troubles, even if it’s only for a while. It has fantastic healing abilities and is such a feel good past time.

Whether you’re into rock or pop music, or whether it’s classical or easy listening, now is a good time to crank up the music and set your worries aside for awhile.
I also found this info sheet online when I was browsing for some self care ideas and activities. I think Dominee has provided a fantastic resource here to help with those gnawing negative thoughts.

Love ❤️

In the current world climate I think it is important to know that love is actually inside of us all. We can help ease this suffering if we radiate our love light instead of pouring out hatred.

This doesn’t mean that love will cure the virus, it means that love can help us overcome our need to panic buy when we already have enough. It means we can show compassion to people instead of fearing them.

Love is the currency and the emotion that we need right now. Love can and will lead the way.

Just breathe.

Amid all of the coronavirus mayhem we all need to take a moment to just breathe. This isn’t me dismissing the severity of what’s happening, I just want to remind you all to take a breath. Take a moment out of the chaos and confusion. Take a moment out of the fear and the anger and just breathe.

Healing.

Healing has to be what is right for you. That’s something I’ve learnt along the way. My healing may appear messy, loud, outspoken, a sort of why are you doing/saying that. My healing is my journey and your healing is yours, it only has to make sense to the person who is healing.

Post for today has gone haywire, here it is…

When we are trying to focus on improving ourselves the worst thing we can do is pay too much attention to images, and posts, on social media. I’m not saying avoid these platforms (unless of course you want to), what I’m saying is don’t play the comparison game.

I’m a sucker for the comparison game, I don’t know how it happens, it just does. Someone is always prettier, thinner, sexier, more successful, has more friends, more money, and on and on it goes. I know I shouldn’t do that, compare what I have/am to other people online, or even in real life, but oh boy is it hard not to!

When I get to that level of not good enough I try my best to remind myself that the people I find myself in awe of are probably going through the exact same thing. I think we all feel this way about everyone else, it’s one of our human flaws.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Remember we all feel not good enough at some point. Overcoming these inadequate feelings we have about ourselves is all part of our healing process, the key to self love.

Know Your Worth.

On my self love journey I am really beginning to value myself, and my time, a lot more. Knowing what I am worth, knowing that I value myself has meant I have been able to see situations in my life a lot clearer.

Never devalue yourself for part time people. Always know your worth and act accordingly. If you lose people, whether they be friends or family then you know that they are not respecting your boundaries. The boundaries you have put in place to make sure your time and attention is not being used up by others for their own agenda.

Loving yourself wholly means you have to get tough on situations and people who devalue your worth. It hurts at times to discover that people whom you deem important in your life don’t feel the same way about you. But this is where loving yourself really steps up a gear and allows you to differentiate between those who really care about you and those who just say they do.

Loving you is important, it’s vital to your self worth.

Monday Musings – February 10th 2020.

Here in the UK we had a storm rip though the country yesterday. Storm Ciara.

It was also the day of the Full Moon yesterday. The Full Snow Moon.

We also have Mercury Retrograde approaching, we are in the shadow period right now.

The energies are potent right now and it’s the perfect time to get witching.

As I continue with my self love/self discovery journey it’s time to let go.

The Promises We Make Ourselves.

At this time of the year many of us have made a commitment to change something. We call them resolutions, New Year Resolutions. Similar words in keeping with resolution are decision, aim, declaration, purpose, perseverance, intention. Words we should remember when we struggle with these promises we have made.

Whatever we have promised ourselves that we will change we will have done so with good intentions. However, many of us start to lose focus after a couple of weeks. We lose the motivation that inspired us around the Holiday season. We become angry with ourselves and the promise we made starts to feel like a burden.

I made a promise to myself that I would simply love myself more. After all of the turmoil I had gone through in the past few years I decided it was an easy enough thing for me to do. Nothing too taxing, nothing that would make me feel like I was being hard on myself.

Love myself more.

For me, loving myself more means:

Being kind to myself.

Practising Self-Care.

Setting boundaries.

Not pushing myself too hard.

Seems easy enough, right? For the first week of January it was easy to be kind and gentle with myself. It was easy to make sure nobody was encroaching on my boundaries. By the second week I was struggling with a virus and it was all I could do to just function, self-care and self-love slipped down my list of priorities as I struggled to get through each day. I felt like a failure. How could I have failed at something so simple?

Last week once the effects of the virus had gone and I was starting to feel more human, I got to thinking about resolutions, my promise to myself, and what it all means to me. I began the year with the intention to love myself completely and that included not being too hard on myself. Yet here I was being hard on myself. Beating myself up for failing at something as easy as loving myself.

Feeling so much better had given me clarity and allowed me to see that when I was ill I was giving myself self-care and self-love. By just doing what I needed to each day and not over taxing myself, that was an act of self-love and self-care.

When we make promises to ourselves at the beginning of each new year we need to remember that life will always throw curve balls our way. Rather than giving up we should thank life/the universe for whatever lesson it was teaching us at the time and recommit to the promise we made ourselves. Losing our way also gives us a chance to tweak the promise, because life isn’t static and neither should we be.

Self love is self care.

I saw this on social media on New Year’s Day and it’s stayed with me, this notion, ever since.

Towards the end of December I kept getting the word LOVE popping into my head. Then I would see the word everywhere, and hear it too.

I was given the word COURAGE as my word of the year, but I also think I should embrace LOVE as another word of the year.

I should have the courage to love myself.