I have always considered Mercury retrograde to be a time where I am going to be confused, a time where there are delays, technology not working for me, traffic jams, and general annoyances. But recently I read something that made me stop and think.
What if we were looking at Mercury retrograde all wrong?
What if we use this time to pause and reflect? What if we use this time to just be still? No big decisions, no major life choices, just looking at where we’ve been in life over the last few weeks or months. Just assessing everything and making sure we are where we want to be, and if not, planning what steps we need to take to get there.
I think a lot of us have got caught up in the mercury retrograde hype and tend to focus on what can go wrong instead of how we can use the energies to enhance our lives.
I still think the communication and technology glitches will occur, but I’m going to do my best to use the energies in a positive way rather than see them as a bad and negative thing.
Last night I saw a comment on Facebook that really made me think. It was from a woman who had posted a photograph of herself after she’d had fake eyelashes done and Botox. Now, that’s not my cup of tea, but one of the comments she made in reply to a friend complimenting her kinda made me smile.
I’m paraphrasing here, but her comment was something like she is beautiful inside and out and the “work” she gets done is to enhance her outer and inner beauty.
I used to be rather critical of people who wanted to get their lashes, or their lips done. Or get Botox, or breast enhancements. But do you know what, it’s not really anyone else’s business is it. If this kind of “work” helps a woman feel at her best then that’s the main thing.
Cheerleading other women is my jam now, and it’s hard some of the time, especially when that woman might rub me up the wrong way, or if she makes questionable choices. But we have enough on our plates trying to get on in this world with patriarchal rules trying to keep us small.
So what if we women make choices about OUR bodies! They’re our bodies, they belong to us and if we want to get any kind of enhancement then so be it. If we feel the need to terminate a pregnancy, then so be it. Men, and women who act like men have no right to dictate what we do with our bodies.
We should always be in full control of what happens to us – and this applies to men too. By focusing on ourselves rather than everyone else we get to take our power back and make choices for us rather than for what anyone else thinks, or wants us to do for their benefit.
I agree with this so much. Recently I was mulling over some work related choices and some of my reasoning left me feeling deflated. A voice inside my head kept telling me to do what makes me happy. It’s vital to follow your heart.
The problem we have, myself included, is that we think things through, again, and again, and again. It’s this over thinking that trips us up. It leads us down the path of self doubt, then onto feeling like we aren’t worthy, like we’re not good enough.
That’s when we give up. We have talked ourselves out of something that would be have been oh so good for us. And what for? The reason is we didn’t trust our inner knowing. We didn’t trust our gut.
Movement is an excellent way to loosen up the tension in your body. You don’t have to have great moves either, just in case you’re worried about not being a natural dancer.
You don’t have to be fully able bodied either. I have a disability and I move what I can when I can. Granted, it’s not the same as a full on dance, but it’s what I can manage and that’s what’s important.
Whatever you manage to do is always the right way. Your body, your rules.
This is a great exercise to do at the start of the week, even the start of each day. It really helps to bring your stress levels down too, so why not give it a try and move into your Monday, and your week, with a happy smile.
With Valentine’s just a couple of days away, today my message is one of love.
I am always talking about how love isn’t just about the romantic kind. It’s about our families. Our friends. Work or school colleagues.
People can go OTT at this time of the year. I don’t think that matters, why should it to us? We don’t always know what is going on in the personal lives of other people.
People without partners can feel down at this time of year. The displays of cards, flowers, gifts, a constant reminder of what they don’t have.
This is where self love is important.
Self love is a special kind of love. You always have yourself. I think it’s important at any time of the year to practice self love and care, soul love. Especially during these dark and uncertain times. But at this time of year it can be a wonderful way to help with any feelings of lack.
Be good to yourself. Be kind. Be loving. Remind yourself that you are not defined by having a man or a woman in your life. Your worth is all about you as a whole, not what someone else brings to your life.
Celebrate the love you have for yourself this coming weekend. Even if you are in a relationship, there’s nothing wrong with loving you too.
And if you’re not in a relationship and haven’t learnt to love yourself yet, just be gentle with yourself right now. Use this weekend as a starting point to loving you. Keep things simple to start with, learning to love yourself is difficult enough, so don’t over complicate any gestures or actions you plan on doing.
Most of all celebrate love this weekend. Any kind of love. Not just romantic love.
Th card is all about centring on the feeling of joy. No matter what is going on in our own lives we can still experience joy by awakening our senses. There are plenty of ways for us to engage all of our senses you just have to be willing to explore them.
During the run-up to Valentine’s Day we can engage with our sense of touch, our sense of smell, our sense of taste, our sense of sight and sound/hearing.
We don’t have to have a partner to engage our senses. Having a luxurious bath can engage some of our senses. Listening to music too.
There is no reason for us not to feel sensual if we are alone. A little imagination can go along way.
Mercury is retrograde, a time when communications have a habit of becoming fraught with problems, among other things. This card has shown up now to remind us that communication is key.
In everything we do we communicate with others on some level. This card is letting us know that we can have that chat we have been meaning to have, without fear of being ignored or unheard.
Remember, relationships aren’t just romantic, they are our family and friends too. Even our work colleagues, or peers. We can have loving communication with any of these people, this card is showing us that the time is now.
So if you need to tell someone something, you can be sure this is the time to have that chat and say all you need to say.