Creating balance.

Last year a friend of mine was using a set of oracle cards and I was immediately drawn to them. I got myself a deck and have been using them regularly ever since.

I have always had a love/hate relationship with tarot cards, I just cannot bond with them at all. Oracle cards are absolutely my thing and this deck in particular have spoken to me in ways that tarot never has.

I try to draw one every day but life is just hectic so it isn’t always possible. Recently I’ve been having the same card come up and I am blown away, as always, at how in tune with me these cards are.

I guess I need to listen to what the universe is trying to tell me; it’s time to slow down and release the tight grip I have on a certain situation.

I hear ya!!!

Monday Musing.

While the world still basks in the romantic glow of love that the Royal Wedding evoked a couple of days ago, I’m reminded of my own wedding and how I often wish things had been different. My eldest daughter is also getting married soon and she has planned everything with her fiance, a far cry from what her own parents did.

When I got married I didn’t have the emotional strength to partake in the planning. I was still very much recovering from the brutal attack on me and I just had no energy to put into wedding planning. I let my own mother plan just about everything. I knew I wanted my dress made, not bought. I actually wanted to get a black dress and just be done with it, but as we had opted for a church wedding I really don’t think it would have been appropriate.

I often wonder what I would have chosen had I not been so broken. Looking back I think I would still have opted for the church, this was twenty-eight years ago – twenty-nine when it was being planned – the registry office was in a dilapidated state and I still think I wouldn’t have wanted to have my wedding there.

If I was planning a wedding now I would be looking at somewhere out in nature. In fact, I would actually get handfasted – I’d probably have a legal ceremony first, but the actual wedding would be a handfasting – a pagan style commitment ceremony. IMG_4298.JPG

 

Having said all of that, I can still remember my wedding day and it was a wonderful day; filled with love, laughter, and happiness.

Thought for the day.

We all find occasion to reject and resist another person. We all like to put up a fight against anything we dislike on the evening news as we spectate the world. But we forget that when we decide we will resist something or somebody, either mentally or physically, we only empower the object of our resistance, either in reality or in our own minds.

If you want to enjoy the ability to influence, always start with acceptance. If you want to disarm another begin with acceptance. If you want to encourage and empower another to change, start with acceptance. Don’t make it conditional. Otherwise it’s just resistance disguised as acceptance, and you are still trying to control them.

You can view this thought online here:

https://www.thoughtfortoday.org.uk/unconditionally-accept/

Positivity Advent Calendar. Day 25.

I want to thank everyone who has read my blog over the last twenty five days. Trying to reduce stress in my life led me to many of the quotes I have shared with you over the last couple of weeks. Believing in yourself is a very powerful tool and it’s something we all should do.

From my hearth to yours, I wish all of my readers a very Merry Christmas.

Positivity Advent Calendar. Day 20.

Taking care of ourselves means eating the right food, getting the right exercise, having a healthy mind, but also taking care of our spiritual well-being too. Now, most people believe spirituality means going to church on a regular basis, and for some people that’s exactly what it does mean. For others it’s another religious practice, for others still it’s about meditating, or even being kind and helpful. Spirituality doesn’t have to be about religion. The word spirituality means “relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.” Being kind, performing random acts of kindness can actually be a spiritual practice. The point is, even in our 24/7 society we can still take care of ALL of our needs, on all levels.

Positivity Advent Calendar. Day 19.

All of this positivity is great, but it’s absolutely meaningless unless we make ourselves a priority. The advice we are given when we are about to fly anywhere, the piece of advice that tells us to put our own oxygen mask on first, that is a very simple, but powerful piece of advice. It’s telling us to take care of ourselves first, because if we don’t, we won’t be any use to anyone else. But by taking care of ourselves first and foremost, we ensure we are giving from a full cup.