This is a bit of a strange concept for me, I’m someone who likes to be organised regardless of what the day has presented me with.
Since the beginning of the year, my aim has been to be better organised. My granddaughter has been staying with me since the end of October as her mum is really ill with her mental health. Juggling the needs of a neurodivergent 9 year old with uni work, a project for my thesis, and chronic illness definitely needs a lot of structure.
I set my planners up in late December, I was quite unwell at Xmas with flu, so it was an activity I worked on whilst stuck in bed. I’d got control as my word for the year, I know, not so ethj g you’d expect! Nevertheless, I thought I would just work with it to see where it led me.
The busyness needed structure, and my planners were primed for the time management I had been planning to set up. Being ill had really knocked me for six,the fatigue was pretty much preventing me from getting stuck into what I was trying to do.
Late last week, I delved deep into my thoughts and unearthed four words that had been popping up so randomly for me for around three weeks – go with the flow. I accepted what I was being presented with and figured I’d let this thought process lead me where I was being nudged to go.
I have to say, it really feels weird to allow my intuitive self to take the lead rather than my conscious mind. The urge to take control of a situation or to follow a structured route throughout the day is overwhelming. I’m not ready to give in just yet….
Gratitude doesn’t have to be about how much money you’ve made, or how big your house is. Gratitude can be about material things, there’s nothing wrong with that. Just like there’s nothing wrong with being grateful for simple things in life that are available to us whenever we want them.
Gratitude teaches us that we have so much to be grateful for already in our lives. It teaches us that life is beautiful, amazing, always showing us how perfect life is.
Even when it’s throwing us massive curve balls, even then, there is always something we can be grateful for.
Sometimes in life we can all become susceptible to the green eyed monster. Feeling jealous of something that someone else has done or achieved. Feeling spiteful towards them because they have something that we don’t. I’d like to say that it’s normal, maybe for a fleeting moment it is. But why do we do that? Why do we envy others?
This is a great time to sit with yourself and work on what triggered that emotional response in you. These triggers may have common denominators, but they are unique to each and every one of us. That’s why it’s not easy to say how you should proceed in your quest to enlightenment.
Working on what triggered the green eyed monster is a process we all have to go through ourselves. The jealousy comes from deep within us, it’s personal to us.
I get that this answer appears vague, but to work on your own flaws, triggers, flash points, call them what you will; to do this work you have to be willing for it to take as long as it takes. It’s not going to conform to 6 sessions with me and my services, although I do have a toolbox of methods to root out the pesky flash points. Working on yourself is unique. No two people will get the exact same process to work with.
Cheering on others can often be an uncomfortable action to begin with. We aren’t taught to cheer others on when they achieve success, or buy a new car, for example. We are taught to be in competition with our peers, and this causes mistrust and suspicion. But one small step can be the catalyst to a whole new viewpoint and it looses a the grip on that trigger inside of you.
Choose love. Choose to be the change you wish to see in the world. Be happy for other people and what brings them joy.
I want to take this opportunity to thank each and everyone one of you for reading my ramblings and interacting with me each week. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, and here’s hoping 2023 is kinder to us all.
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