If, like me, you’re really struggling mentally and emotionally during this pandemic and especially if you’re in lockdown, chances are you could benefit from some self care.
When the Covid19 virus started making headlines back at the beginning of the year it felt scary for me. I read as much as I could about it, and with each passing week it got closer to home.
Around ten days ago my brain/thoughts had just had enough. I already socially distance myself anyway so that wasn’t a real hardship for me. But then the UK went into lockdown.
As a person who spends a lot of time at home I really thought this would be a breeze for me. A couple of days in and I started to struggle. I don’t know what it was about the enforced staying at home, it just suddenly started making me feel so very claustrophobic.
This is when I had suddenly decided I’d had enough of the endless news cycles churning out everything and anything Coronavirus related. Social media channels were just as bad too. Everyone had something to say and everyone was an expert, it was driving me nuts.
Enough was enough for me. Now I limit my time on social media (I was doing this mostly anyway) and the browsing of news is very limited too. Instead, I have been focusing on self care and trying to be as kind and gentle to myself as possible.
When I was writing this post I felt called to draw an Oracle Card. The card is from The Sacred Self-Care Oracle deck by Jill Pyle. The Card I drew is Music.
In the current world climate I think it is important to know that love is actually inside of us all. We can help ease this suffering if we radiate our love light instead of pouring out hatred.
This doesn’t mean that love will cure the virus, it means that love can help us overcome our need to panic buy when we already have enough. It means we can show compassion to people instead of fearing them.
Love is the currency and the emotion that we need right now. Love can and will lead the way.
We are living through the scariest, darkest times since World War II and our world is changing. In just a few short days we’ve gone from observing countries on lockdown to being on the verge of lockdown ourselves.
And it’s terrifying.
Washing our hands, avoiding crowded places, self isolating, feeling frustrated and angry when the panic buyers have left us without our basic essentials, this has become the new norm for us.
And it’s terrifying.
I was asked a day or two ago how I’m coping. Like everyone else I’m bewildered by the world we are now living in. I feel lost at times, definitely scared, but I have no choice but to keep moving forward.
Taking each day as it comes. Sometimes hour by hour, minute by minute, that’s how I’m coping. Moving forward as slowly as I need to. It’s all we can do in these uncertain times.
Amid all of the coronavirus mayhem we all need to take a moment to just breathe. This isn’t me dismissing the severity of what’s happening, I just want to remind you all to take a breath. Take a moment out of the chaos and confusion. Take a moment out of the fear and the anger and just breathe.
Healing has to be what is right for you. That’s something I’ve learnt along the way. My healing may appear messy, loud, outspoken, a sort of why are you doing/saying that. My healing is my journey and your healing is yours, it only has to make sense to the person who is healing.
When we are trying to focus on improving ourselves the worst thing we can do is pay too much attention to images, and posts, on social media. I’m not saying avoid these platforms (unless of course you want to), what I’m saying is don’t play the comparison game.
I’m a sucker for the comparison game, I don’t know how it happens, it just does. Someone is always prettier, thinner, sexier, more successful, has more friends, more money, and on and on it goes. I know I shouldn’t do that, compare what I have/am to other people online, or even in real life, but oh boy is it hard not to!
When I get to that level of not good enough I try my best to remind myself that the people I find myself in awe of are probably going through the exact same thing. I think we all feel this way about everyone else, it’s one of our human flaws.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Remember we all feel not good enough at some point. Overcoming these inadequate feelings we have about ourselves is all part of our healing process, the key to self love.
On my self love journey I am really beginning to value myself, and my time, a lot more. Knowing what I am worth, knowing that I value myself has meant I have been able to see situations in my life a lot clearer.
Never devalue yourself for part time people. Always know your worth and act accordingly. If you lose people, whether they be friends or family then you know that they are not respecting your boundaries. The boundaries you have put in place to make sure your time and attention is not being used up by others for their own agenda.
Loving yourself wholly means you have to get tough on situations and people who devalue your worth. It hurts at times to discover that people whom you deem important in your life don’t feel the same way about you. But this is where loving yourself really steps up a gear and allows you to differentiate between those who really care about you and those who just say they do.
Loving you is important, it’s vital to your self worth.